Bisexuality isn’t the inability to make a decision, it isn’t me being greedy, and it certainly isn’t me “following a trend”. There are so many stigmas and negative connotations that come with being bi. Over the years I have received vile comments from both straight and gay people and it’s disheartening knowing that the majority of my friends (as well as the general public) don’t believe in the existence of my sexuality. An old friend whom I had helped out of the closet had the audacity (or ignorance) to say “you’re probably just gay and too afraid to admit it” when anyone who knows me can tell you that I am the first to admit to liking boys. It was at this point in my life that I realized I was fighting a war inside of a war.
LGBT stands for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender yet somehow the bisexual part is always overlooked. We as a community are always talking about how we want social equality, yet within our own ranks there is an abundance of animosity aimed towards bisexuals, fueled by a general misunderstanding that we “want to have our cake and eat it too”. This stigma is grossly counterfactual and further perpetuates ignorance within our community. I understand not everyone shares these opinions, but every bisexual person I know feels persecuted from both sides and nobody deserves to feel that way. Especially by people who are asking for the same fundamental rights.
As it is Bisexual Visibility Day I am taking the opportunity to dedicate my time and personal experiences in an attempt to shed light on the unnecessary divide within the LGBTQ+ community. It’s my goal to diminish the belief that we are here simply to disgrace the sanctity of monogamy. After all bisexuality is just another label for the way somebody was born and not a defining attribute to someones character. Sexuality is a never ending spectrum and everyone falls on it at different points, we are all figuring ourselves out and everyone deserves respect for who they were born to be.
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